Monday night, 18-year-old Adam Shigwadja ignored a court order to stay away and stormed his ex girlfriend's home with the intent of killing her. He held Sophia Putney-Wilcox, his ex, at knifepoint and set fire to her bedroom.
The restraining order, Shigwadja ignored was for a previous attempt on Sophia's life back in 2013. According to MLive.com,
Putney-Wilcox said she met Shigwadja when she was a freshman and was happy when they began dating. "I was really insecure. And he was really popular, and a lot of people liked him, so I felt really cool," she said. "I did whatever I could to stay with him."
But when she found out he was cheating on her, she broke it off with Shigwadja after 17 months of dating, she said.
Verbal abuse turned physical Feb. 20, 2013 when Shigwadja broke into her family's home, she said.
"He held a knife to my throat and was trying to get me to go outside. I was in my underwear and a T-shirt," Putney-Wilcox said.
Luckily, one of Sophia's friends was able to save her that night. Following that attack, Shigwadja was told to stay away from Sophia as part of his bond from jail. When Sophia tried to get a personal protection order (restrainin order), Judge Alexander C. Lipsey denied it the same day it was filed.
None of Sophia's friends were there during the attack Monday, but Sophia's big brother heard the ruckus in Sophia's room, he charged in with a baseball bat and stuck the deranged ex with the bat until he jumped out the window.
Kalamazoo Public Safety Assistant Chief Donald Webster announced that police would seek charges of attempted murder, arson, home invasion and possibly others against Shigwadja.
Sophia, meanwhile, wants to get her story out to as many people as possible and prevent domestic violence from getting this far. She says she knows girls in abusive relationships but fear of the abuser keeps them from speaking up.
"All they have is the abuser making threats. Nobody will want you, nobody will believe you. And you won't speak out until you decide that you are better than that and learn to really love yourself"